tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-114953763003637657.post5445851473422127170..comments2023-05-11T04:26:12.301-04:00Comments on The Delightful Momnesiac: Change It!Jenny @ The Delightful Momnesiachttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00763404138434647651noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-114953763003637657.post-19264223120103906472013-02-09T18:42:25.029-05:002013-02-09T18:42:25.029-05:00I think you need to re-read the blog post. NEVER o...I think you need to re-read the blog post. NEVER once did she blame the victim! I don't know where you lived when you were so horribly abused, but this same friend who spirited you away could have taken you to a police station where you could have pressed charges against your ex. Where did this friend take you when you were "rescued"? You might have been able to get that same help long before you did. <br /><br />I am sorry you experienced such abuse. I pray your ex is no longer able to hurt you. I do believe you are in need of some counseling as have taken this encouraging blog post to "change your circumstances" to a dark place. If there is any shaming to go on, it would be towards the ABUSERS ... Shortcakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17399777444387322446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-114953763003637657.post-19413915262586083582013-02-08T22:24:58.536-05:002013-02-08T22:24:58.536-05:00I'm sorry you were ever in an abusive relation...I'm sorry you were ever in an abusive relationship, and I am super happy you changed your circumstances and got out. You are an inspiration to all those still in abusive relationships. I'm not sure how the welfare part would work, I was retelling the lecture we had in class. I'm sorry there was not government help where you are from. I'm glad you were able to work around it, and despite the lack of government help, get out of such a terrible thing no one should have to go through.<br /><br />I'm sorry if this post seemed negative; it is absolutely not supposed to come off that way. You prove the point that if you are in a bad situation you can change it. Thank you for reading, and your point of view. I will try in future posts to make sure my wording and point is more clear.Jenny @ The Delightful Momnesiachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00763404138434647651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-114953763003637657.post-42083144312420474062013-02-08T02:09:37.867-05:002013-02-08T02:09:37.867-05:00Way to victim-blame. What about those who are abu...Way to victim-blame. What about those who are abused and don't have kids? You don't get welfare. Even if you've got kids, what about a place to stay? The section 8 list only opens up to new applicants for a week every five years, and even then, you get an application if you're picked from a lottery. Where do you live in the meantime? Shelters aren't long-term. Not everyone has family able or willing to help. How about telling the abusers to stop abusing instead of blaming victims?<br /><br />My ex kept me in the country without always having phone service. I was dressing surgical wounds with toilet paper and didn't always have food. He slowly battered me down so that I didn't see it happening, and believed I deserved it when he hit me and raped me because I said no. We were in a relationship, so I deserved it. Only when I was ready to kill myself did a friend I managed to make on the sly pull me out of it. <br /><br />There was no government assistance for a non-childed person. Even if there was, I had no way to get to any help. <br /><br />You are lucky you've ever never been there or had the means to get the aid to get out. Not everyone does. Shame on you for shaming the victims.Someone in the Pacific Northwesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16334594486989015587noreply@blogger.com